Women: It's time to step up to the spotlight

Many women – myself included – have the tendency to shy away from the spotlight. Rather than put themselves forward, they would prefer to quietly work in the background and let others be the ones to step forward.

Why? Because it can be scary, overwhelming and downright uncomfortable, to put yourself forward and tell the world, “I’m an expert.”

This is the exact feeling I had a few years ago when I was asked to present to 100 people on how to use PR and social media. For days before had I was unable to sleep and experienced moments of sheer panic and terror. I ended up in tears and wanting to cancel the whole thing. And this wasn’t the first time that I wanted to run away or said no because I was reluctant (or plain terrified) to stand in the spotlight.

But then I had a moment. On the night of the presentation as the room started filling with people, all looking to me to teach them about PR and social media, I had a choice, do I run or do I stay? I walked up the stairs, microphone in hand, willing my hands not to shake. I looked out into the crowd, took a breath and began to speak.

In that moment I realised I deserved to be in the spotlight and I wanted to these people to hear what I had to say as it could really help them and their businesses.

So instead of asking myself, “Who was I to stand in the spotlight?” I asked, “Who am I not to stand in the spotlight? Who am I not to share expert information? Who am I not to have a voice?”

This was the start of my journey from unknown to well-recognised and highly regarded expert and thought leader. I now get asked to present at international conferences, I have received millions of dollars’ worth of media coverage and have an award winning blog, all which helps to fuel my business.

Here’s my advice for anyone who wants to step up and have their time in the spotlight.

Stand in your power

Don’t let those self-limiting beliefs stand your way. You know the ones: Do I know enough? Do I know more than the next person? Am I really an expert? Believe in yourself, your knowledge and your hard-won experience. See yourself truly as an expert and be prepared to tell people that’s what you are.

Explore your motivation

Ask yourself why you want to be considered an expert or thought leader. If your motivation is purely to get sales then your audience will quickly see this and won’t respond positively to you. The biggest thing you need to realise is that promoting yourself isn’t actually about you, it’s about the people you want to influence. To really be seen as an expert you have to share something of value whether this is your IP, time or expertise.

For me, my motivation is to share my knowledge and teach as many people as I can about how to do amazing PR and social media. This goal is what drives my blogs, the articles I write, pitching myself to the media and my presentations at conferences.

Don’t be afraid to ask for the sale

Women are natural relationship builders, it’s our strength. But sometimes this strength can hold us back when it comes to asking for the sale. Many women will see it as being too pushy or abusing the friendship and hold back.

Again, this reluctance is often feed by self-doubt.  But someone who believes in themselves, sees themselves as an expert and understands their own value shouldn’t be afraid to ask for what they want, be it the sale, a promotion or even to ask people to read your latest blog post.

Ask for help

You don’t know what you don’t know, but don’t let this hold you back. Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help from others who do know. For instance, don’t let inexperience be your excuse for not putting yourself forward for speaking opportunities. Instead enlist the help of a presentations coach to develop your skills.

Many of us do this every day in our professional roles. We would never dream of designing a website if this wasn’t our core skill, we’d outsource it. Give yourself permission to do the same and seek help from others.

Standing in the spotlight doesn’t have to be a scary experience; it can actually be motivating, enlivening and lots of fun. It can also have a powerful impact on your business, your career and also your personal life.

The truth is, you have knowledge in your particular field that others don’t, and you can capitalise on this by offering your expert knowledge and opinion to others. The more that you accept you are an expert, the more everyone else will accept it to.

Get my BRAND new book and fast track your journey from unknown to a recognised expert and thought leader! From Unknown To Expert: How to use clever PR and social media to become a recognised expert is available at www.unknowntoexpert.com

This article first appeared in Women’s Agenda. View the original article here: How women can go from unknown to expert and own the spotlight.

My Top 10 presentation tips that will wow your audience

The very thought of public speaking terrifies many of us. In fact, the fear of public speaking ranks higher than the fear of death. It’s crazy, but true.

But whether we like it or not, public speaking is a fact of life. Whether you’re doing a presentation at a conference or event, or pitching to clients in the workplace, we all have to take the stand at some point.

But presenting to your audience doesn’t have to be a tongue twisting disaster. When it’s done right, it can be the most effective form of communicating and can often lead to new business and open doors to new opportunities.

Here are my top 10 tips on how to deliver a presentation that will get an applause from any audience.

1. Preparation is key

The best way to wow your audience is to deliver a clear, concise message. But for this to happen, you need to prepare and practice thoroughly before every interview.

Writing a game plan which covers key issues and the message you want to communicate can be a great way to clarify your thoughts. Even better, practice in front of the mirror or film yourself to identify areas for improvement. The more prepared you are, the better you will be able to get your key messages across.

2. Think confident thoughts

How you look on stage is crucial to how your audience will perceive you. Try to look relaxed and calm, and use slow, controlled gestures. If you look and speak confidently, you will appear more credible and people will be less likely to notice if you make a mistake.

It’s also worth taking some time to figure out what you will wear. A simple and professional outfit is the safest bet. Avoid wearing stripes, checks, herringbone, small intricate designs or flashy jewellery as they can be distracting at times.

3. Get excited

It’s important to speak more expressively and energetically than usual when you’re presenting to an audience. Your message is less likely to be heard if you speak in a monotone, and speaking in a dreary tone won’t captivate any audience.

Your voice should lift and drop, and increase and decrease in volume. Practice on your family and friends to make sure you don’t overdo it.

4. Think before you speak

How you engage with your audience will depend on the type of speaking opportunity you’re doing, but regardless of where your presentation takes place, it’s important not to ramble. Take a moment to think about what you say, and pause between thoughts. If you are in an interview situation and the journalist is quiet, don’t feel as though you have to keep talking.

Keeping your words concise and to the point will help people to digest what you’re saying. Also pause instead of using filler words such as ‘um’ while thinking. And if you make a mistake, just correct yourself and move on. Don’t dwell on it.

5. Hold your gaze

Trying to figure out where to look can be unsettling for anyone who is taking to the spotlight. Look for the ‘lighthouses’ in the room – the people that are really engaged. By looking at them from time to time throughout your presentation they will give you energy and confidence.

6. Relax

Getting up in front of a room of people can rattle even the strongest nerves, so it’s important to relax and take a break from reading your notes. It can be useful to put your notes down in the 30 minutes prior to your interview to give your brain some time to unwind. Try and calm your nerves by calling a family member or friend, or stepping outside for some fresh air.

7. Believe in yourself

You don’t have to be a professional speaker to take the stage at events, and anyone with expert knowledge can be a speaker. If you remain confident, calm and collected, and if you really believe in what you have to say, you will be able to connect with any audience. If you don’t feel you have these qualities, public speaking training may help you to prepare ahead of time.

8. Promote your business and services

When you take the stage at any event, you can include case studies or examples from your business in your presentation. This will not only improve your credibility by showing you’re an expert in your field; it will also help you to build your brand awareness with the audience. However, keep in mind that you should never be overly promotional or talk about your business too much.

9. Network, network, network!

Events offer a great opportunity to connect with other speakers and attendees. Often members of the audience will be eager to catch up with you after the presentation because something you said resonated with them. This is a great time to get their details and determine if they would be interested in your business or services.

10. Position yourself as an expert

Speaking to an audience gives you automatic credibility on your subject matter. By honing your presentation skills, connecting with your audience and presenting at multiple events related to your field, you will become well known in your industry. If you get the mix right, soon people will be contacting you to speak at their events.

Get my BRAND new book and fast track your journey from unknown to a recognised expert and thought leader! From Unknown To Expert: How to use clever PR and social media to become a recognised expert is available at www.unknowntoexpert.com

 

 

ABOUT CATRIONA POLLARD

Catriona Pollard Speaker and Trainer in Social Media